Eric Idle, the English comedian, actor, author, and musician known for being part of the legendary British comedy group Monty Python, once joked in an interview that “You need imagination to be with a woman for 40 years.” But with jokes reportedly being half-meant, one could agree that in any relationship, the key to keeping it alive would be to make it interesting.
But as many of us who are or have been in such relationships can attest, it can be challenging to figure out how to keep your partner guessing over what you have planned for them, especially in instances that they’re so familiar with you that they can essentially tell whether you have something planned for them or not.
Fortunately, treating your significant other like the very important person that they are is usually a lot simpler than what you might think. As some of the items we’ll be mentioning show, it all involves understanding your partner and doing things for them that they can easily appreciate and enjoy, big or small:
Offer to take care of the baby (if you already have one) or take on more chores. It’s a given that parenthood can place such great demands on the time needed for a stay-at-home parent, so giving her extra time for herself can go a long way in ensuring she’s happier and more content.
Whether this is enough time for her to have a night with her girlfriends or just a few extra hours to sleep in, she will definitely appreciate it.
Set aside time for yourselves. While having time for yourselves is important, the most wonderful thing about having a significant other is being able to spend time and do things with them. For those who have children, get a babysitter or a trusted relative to watch your child or children for an agreeable period.
You can then go on that long-postponed date or just book a brief staycation at a nice hotel to rekindle the romance. You will thank me for that.
Do things for her that you don’t normally do. Simple gestures such as preparing her breakfast in bed, leaving romantic Post-It notes or leaving her a simple gift without her knowing or expecting this of you can win her over greatly.
Trust me, she won’t see the gesture coming and interpret this as a big deal to go out of your way to do something for her.
Give her something that you know she’ll appreciate. Often, something as simple as a day spa coupon or a massage when you get home will mean a lot to her since you care enough to give her something that appeals to her.
In such instances, the thought will always count and she’ll certainly feel important, giving her an all-important boost of her self-esteem.
Let her know how you feel about her in a language she understands. “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.” Familiar, isn’t it?
While it seems like such an overrated cliche thing, letting your partner know how much you love them and understanding how they express and interpret their feelings toward you go a long way in keeping your relationship strong and vibrant. It pays to know how your partner expresses themselves as this will help build better communication between both of you.
Pay attention to your partner when they communicate with you. A surprising number of us don’t take notice of our partner when she shares something with us or when they do something for us. This can breed miscommunication and resentment between both of you.
The fact is that when we stay aware and observant of our partner, it can often give us information about who they are and what they’re attuned to, so keeping an attentive gaze and listening ear can help you find ways to bring you closer to your significant other.
While no single gesture or gift is a guaranteed to have your beloved swooning over you at the drop of a hat (despite what popular culture says about chocolates, flowers and long walks on the beach), what remains common between you and your partner is the fact that you both communicate with each other and as such, this gives you opportunities to learn more about each other.
Best tip: Read (and love) between the lines
Being able to pick up on these constant clues that your better half leaves can help you find ways to get to her heart and keep you safely there. After all, if you took effort to get her to say those sweet three letters or words, you wouldn’t want all that to go to nothing in the end.
While nothing in the world is permanent, what you do will linger long after and it’s up to you to make the most of each moment with your significant other.